When your actions and words match, you’re on target toward creating a relationship and a sense of self that is solid. When you live your life doing what you say a couple things begin to happen. One, you attract people into your life that are “DO-ERS.” Meaning people that go beyond their words and do what they say. These are people that actually hit the concrete and do it. You attract what you are, so if you become or are a person of your word, you will attract those individuals to you. Being in relationships where each person is honoring their word creates trust, which is a major backbone of any relationship. It’s huge.
Secondly, your life flows when you are continually in congruence with doing what you say. There is energy in your words and when they match it creates movement that brings opportunities to you. The more you do what you say, the easier it becomes to make this a habit and have this flow of growth in your life.
Your matching actions and words will bring a positive light to all areas of your life, but especially in your intimate relationships. Think about the concept of trust. Trust is built when you are consistent in doing what you say. When your words consistently don’t match, people will begin to doubt your truth. When you don’t trust the person whom you’re in a relationship with, things will fall apart.
Our hearts are very fragile and special gifts to offer someone. Make sure that you are giving your heart to someone that is trust worthy. When someone consistently shows you that they are not a person of their word, be aware of that. Consider it a red flag. Not to say that these are “bad” people, but just be mindful of how much energy you want to put into someone who “might” show up when you need them.
How can you tell if someone is a person of their word? Well, here are some questions to consider: Does that person call when they say they will? Does that person keep their commitments like they said they would? Does that person say they love you and DO actions that match that statement. It’s often in little gestures that you can learn a lot about someone. It’s the little stuff. Nobody is perfect. Yes, it’s typical to miss a phone call or event here and there, but if this is a consistent pattern of the person whom you are on the other end of, it can be really hard to handle. Especially if you are a person of your word who is honoring your commitment to that relationship. You deserve to get what you give.
If your actions and words do not match up, good news, there is an opportunity for you to grow and change. Becoming a person of your word can change your life and relationships for the better. Life is a constant learning opportunity, so don’t be hard on yourself if and when you identify your own personal cracks. We all have our “cracked” areas that can be improved. Our job is to face them and change them so we can get to another level within ourself.