It’s much more enjoyable to be real and just be who you are versus trying to be someone you’re not. We hear this all the time, yet it’s still common for people to put up a front by hiding their true self. I personally get very bored with people who are hiding their truth. I can feel it. I like people so much better when they are not trying to be anything other then them self. It's obvious and so attractive when someone is comfortable with who they are, truly and fully. That person is like a magnet because being real is refreshing.
I get it. You can and will be judged for what you say and what you do. I know that this is a huge reason why people, generally, put up fronts and act differently from who they really are. The irony is that you will be judged either way: Whether you say what’s real or not.
As soon as you accept that no matter what you say or do you will be judged, you open yourself up to freedom of honest expression. There will always be someone who disagrees with your perspective. Getting to a point where you can stomach that concept and allow it to be OKAY is key. If it’s not okay then you will always be in a state of trying to please, which will leave you running in circles. When you get to the point where you can accept that no matter what you say and do there will always be someone who views it differently, then you open yourself up toward being fully yourself.
Whether you are totally real with yourself or if you're “trying” to say “the right” thing, you cannot control what others are going to think. You actually are figuring out who should be in your life when you' re real with yourself and those around you. You quickly can identify people who are your "tribe" when you're honest and true. To go further, when you "keep it real" you naturally draw toward you the "right" people and draw away from you the "wrong" ones. You are constantly attracting where you are at, so when you are not being real, you are attracting just that: People who are not going to be straight with you.
Genuinely happy people are showing up as they are everyday. It is so much less complicated when you are not trying to say and do the right thing. It reminds me of an automatic physical reaction. It just happens in your body. When someone startles you, your body knows to react, you don't have to make it react. It’s that automatic flight or fight that just happens physically. Imagine trying to make that not happen. What? The same goes for trying to emotionally react in a way that is not natural for you. Don’t do it. Your better bet is to just show up as you are.
Stay true to who you are. State the opinions that you have. Even if the people that you are around don’t agree with them. There is a way to state how you feel and remain respectful. When you start to consistently state your truth out loud you are simultaneously drawing toward you the people that speak your language. When you begin to surround yourself with “those” people, whom you see eye to eye with, that is when relationships have the opportunity to get really rich.
Be real. Say it how it is for you with respect and tack. Be honest with yourself and watch how much easier that makes it to be honest with others. It's all a spider web effect. The number one thing that this will do is help you to feel clear with who you are and what you want.