It’s very easy to get stuck in EXPECTING yourself to not only produce fantastic results, but to do so on a consistent basis. If you struggle with never feeling good enough, read on my friend. When there are heaps of unnecessary pressures and expectations that you’re putting on yourself, nothing may ever seem good enough. This can leave you feeling empty when there is every reason to fill full.
Some of us showed up on this earth with a true wonder woman or super man complex. Meaning, you expect everything you touch to turn to gold or be easy for you. Perhaps this is because at one point of your life you were really good at many things. Maybe you were smart in school, athletic, artistic, well liked, funny, etc. At one point it may have been easy for you to fit in and do well in life generally. You learned early on that you can do multiple things very well.
This is awesome, but make sure that you also have awareness that you are human and it’s okay and natural when you have a rough time catching onto some things because eventually you will. At one point or another in life, this will appear. When you are used to doing everything well, this can be a big blow to the ego. It can be a difficult thing to grasp when you have been used to being so naturally good at everything or always standing out amongst the crowd.
On the contrary, there are also some of us who have never felt like they have ever been good at anything period. These individuals constantly have struggled to figure out how to believe in them selves. What I can say to this is that each one of us does have a gift. It’s that thing that lights you up. The thing you do naturally without trying. Get in tune with that. Presenting that gift of yours to the world can be what leads you to work on feeling better about yourself.
Having high expectations of yourself can lead you to accomplish your goals, but it’s important to remember that balance is key. The pressure and expectation to always do above and beyond can get exhausting and wear on you. It can get you down in the gutter about yourself and what you’re working toward accomplishing.
It’s easy to develop a “I’m not good enough” complex when you’re always expecting nothing but the best of yourself. This complex is such a bummer because it doesn’t leave room for you to be human, meaning you can’t possibly always be on point. It’s part of the human experience to have draw backs, slow days, good days, productive days and not so productive days. It all balances out to keep you healthy and well. Your job is to listen to yourself each day and honor what you feel without feeling guilty about it.
Remember that when you’re constantly looking at what you should be doing, you’re not acknowledging what you are already doing that is pretty RAD and right on target. If you're feeling stuck and not good enough, I’m here to remind you that you are right where you need to be. Sometimes set backs and icky feelings of boredom and stagnation are necessary in order to jump to another level. Instead of being frustrated and anxious about where you are in your life, practice letting what “IS” be. When you do that, that’s when movement tends to happen and new opportunities come into your life.