One of the most comforting statements to me is the one of letting go. This phrase always helps to put me back on track and in check. Letting go takes away the pressure to produce a certain result from events and life circumstances that are out of our control anyway. Yes, we do have choices and our choices will dictate how things pan out, but there is a point where the result is out of our control. I love this. It leaves room for mystery, excitement and unpredictability. I’m not suggesting to sit back and do nothing. Live your life and do what feels natural and interesting to you, but as far as “trying” to make things happen how you want them to be, step back and let go.
Letting go is this fine balance of push pull. You have all these choices to make on the daily. What I’m pointing attention to is letting go of how you think a situation should turn out. Sometimes we find our selves making choices in order to gain a certain outcome. That is a great example of not letting go and trying to control the outcome. Life is not like math. You can’t figure it out. Trying to constantly figure out how all the pieces are going to fall into place takes away joy, creates anxiety and inflexibility and does not allow you to live fully.
I’m a huge believer in the statement that the unexpected things in life are often the most beautiful moments. The good stuff is not the scripted stuff in life. In fact, what I always notice is that the really amazing events are ones that you couldn’t even dream up. Its beyond what you can imagine. It’s cool because with my job I get to experience the proof of this first hand from my clients. When you sit back and kick your legs up, you give life the space to create opportunities and outcomes that are beyond you. This is where the good stuff lies.
So, what would it mean for you to let go? It could be small tweaks that you need to make in your actions or your behaviors might need a full makeover. Whichever the case, it’s your call. What I will say is letting go of control will bring unexpected gems your way.