Who wants to be uncomfortable? Nobody. One constant phrase that I find myself reading lately goes something like this: Your tolerance of discomfort is absolutely connected to how successful you can be. So, getting “down” with putting yourself out there and feeling uncomfortable will determine how far you can get in life.
It’s amazing what people will do in order to avoid the discomfort of the unknown. Never have a second of down time, stay in bad relationships, go to a miserable job everyday that you hate, etc. By the way, that all sounds very uncomfortable to me, which leads to my next point: To some degree, you are going to be in uncomfortable situations and moments in life no matter what you do to avoid it. You are going to feel discomfort whether you try to avoid it or not. It’s just part of the package. So, either way, the road requires going through some rocky terrain.
The ironic part is that sometimes your efforts to avoid discomfort is what draws it right toward you. As if you have a bullseye on your forehead. Here is what I can tell you about that: You will get through the discomfort and things will change. Everything is temporary and the discomfort will pass.
Here is the silver lining: Being uncomfortable pays off because it helps us to grow. We tend to grow a lot when we are put to the test and challenged with life. If life is difficult for you right now, I’m sorry, because that can be really hard to deal with. Truly. One thing I will say is that when life gets hard you have an opportunity to grow because of the challenge. The more difficult the situation is, the bigger opportunity for growth. We can learn a lot about our selves when we are pushed and uncomfortable if we allow it. Hard, but true. Yes, easier said then done.
Very often we associate the unknown with being uncomfortable and scary. So many people freak out when plans don’t go as planned. I get it, sometimes it’s super inconvenient when you get thrown off and things totally change. Let me also offer you this perspective: Trust that things are working out by not working out as planned. When you start to learn to tolerate the unknown you often can start enjoying the adventure that will fall piece by piece in front of you when you step aside. When you realize that a situation can be pieced together in its own way and turn out better than what was planned, you start to trust life and live fully. Remember that the unexpected is what tends to produce the best surprises in life.
I watch a lot of people hang on to things, situations and people that they don’t really enjoy because of their inability to trust that life will provide if they let go of these things. I see this a lot. I also see people within my life and the world, that feel discomfort and go for it anyway. Those are the people that are really living. They are making their dreams happen and they are going where they want to go. I love this.
Allowing yourself to feel uncomfortable is what will lead you to the good stuff. If you're uncomfortable, you're on the right track.