What are you afraid of? What scares you, but also kind of excites you? Any thoughts?
Suppose that I told you that what scares you is exactly what you should pursue in order for you to grow personally. Just to be clear, I’m referring to things that really push you out of your comfort zone that are healthy. No unhealthy ventures wanted here.
Consider this quote:
“Look to what you’re afraid of to learn where you can grow.”
It’s often that in order to grow as a person, you need to tread through some uncomfortable waters first. To an extent, growth equates being uncomfortable. A lot of people avoid growing in order to avoid the discomfort of the experience. This is not to say that a growing experience is and needs to be awful. That’s up to you and how you respond to the situation based on your attitude, perspective and actions. It’s common for there to be a level of discomfort, until you face your fear and realize it's no big thing or prove to yourself that you can get through it and handle it. Once you face your fear you can drop down your armor and truly slip into the experience that is before you.
Think about entering a new intimate relationship. For some of us, this is a very scary experience. There is the risk to be rejected, made a fool, vulnerable, fill in the blank with what freaks you out. (This can also be an exciting and special experience.) The irony with growth and getting to another level with yourself or someone else, is that you have to get through the “terrifying” stage. If you don’t get through it because of your fear, you will not be able to reap the benefits of a special partnership. Fear can cause us to pull away, shut down, close off, etc. These are not actions that scream "I'm available." On the contrary, they are actions that are filled with fear.
Getting through the fear around anything that scares you will call for courage and work. Only when you face your fears can you see what you were missing. That is the reward.
Whatever you're afraid of in your life could be a huge indicator of what you need to go toward in order to grow. In simple terms, your fear can be guiding you. Scary doesn’t need to be bad. It’s all in how you think about it. For example, you can reprogram your “scary” to be thought of as “exciting.” Sometimes altering the way in which you see something can make it more tolerable and pleasant. Think about what you may be avoiding because of fear. Often times if we take the time to quite and listen, we can hear the things that are calling for us, which we have been blocking out because they are intimidating. I challenge you to listen to what is coming up for you and take a bold stand to go against your fear. I say this with challenging my own self as well.
You ready for it?
* The above image was taken by Ashley Williams, a San Diego based photographer.