Embrace what is coming toward you in your life that is good and embrace what is bad.
I’m a huge believer that both sides, the good and bad stuff, are here to teach us. Often, the more difficult the situation, the more we tend to learn because the lesson is hard and challenging. When we begin to hang out with the “not so great” situations and people that come into our experience, there are often valuable lessons in that space to learn from.
I had a situation a couple years ago where I felt very tricked and deceived by a man who I was dating. I dated this person shortly, but found out months down the line that a lot of what he was telling me was beyond not true. Actually, to be frank, they were straight up lies. I felt utterly fooled and betrayed to say the least. When the truth of the situation was revealed I remember driving in my car at the end of the day feeling totally defeated, when all of a sudden my perspective just switched. Instead of the “why me” thoughts I started thinking, “I wonder why this person and situation came into my life?” I began to embrace the situation, even though it was unpleasant, in order to learn the lesson(s) from it. In retrospect, there were many lessons from this situation and from this person that I learned that have made me better. Reflecting back on that experience, as awkward as it was, I can tell you that I’m thankful for it because it shined a light on an area of my life that I needed to look at. I feel that even though something “crummy” happened to me, I grew from the experience.
This is what will happen when you are open to a situation. You will grow. As backward as this sounds, usually the more you dislike a situation, the bigger the lesson there is for you to learn. Your challenge is to look deeper and beyond the surface of the experience so you can see the lesson waiting for you to learn. There always is one!
When you accept a situation, experience or person for what it is, it tends to move out of your life with more ease and grace. When acceptance is present, it allows flow. When you choose not to embrace something, someone or a situation, it becomes stuck. This “stuck” feeling can act like “a thorn on your side” and cause life to be more uncomfortable than it needs to be.
Do you have a person or situation that you are struggling with? If so, I challenge you to look at why you are being presented with your current circumstance. In other words, find another way to look at it. Look for the lesson. Look at why this situation might be coming into your life. Simply put, embrace it. When you see experiences, good or bad, as learning lessons you have countless opportunities to become better.
* Image was taken by me in Encinitas, D Street.