It’s so easy to get caught into the devastation or sadness of something ending. I remember, as a kid, this was so difficult for me to grasp, and still is. I was beyond myself when I would have to go back home and get torn away from a week at my Aunties house with my cousin. I loved spending time with them and was always horrified about the thought of not seeing my family again until Thanksgiving. After all, it was Summer! I visually remember laying on the backseat car mat, huddled in a ball whimpering, on the way home feeling like life was over while listening to moody songs like “Dust in the Wind” by Kansas.
It’s difficult to let go and move on from people, experiences and moments that......well, are over. Whether it’s the ending of a trip or a loss of a life or significant relationship, this stuff is hard. I will not and cannot deny that. What I do know is that the perspective that you choose, coupled with the event, is what can make you feel hope or despair. Hands down. It’s how you perceive something that connects to how you will feel about it. This will always BE.
Without getting into the gritty details of how endings can be complicated, filled with confusion and hurt, I’m going to present a perspective, that, hopefully, can be helpful. Here it is: In the same moment that something is ending, another “something” is beginning. It reminds me of the quote, “When one door closes another opens.” There is always balance at work. Focusing on what you learned from the event or person that's over or gone and putting energy toward feeling hopeful about the opportunity to “begin again” can help you to feel relief.
This perspective may take practice, but you can change the way you feel about what happens to you. In order to do this, all you need is to be committed and ready to do the mental work to change your view point.
Remember, in the mist of change, “All endings are also beginnings.”
- I heard the quote “All endings are also beginnings” in the film, The Five People you Meet in Heaven by Mitch Albom.
- This image was taken in Maui, Hawaii.