It’s always interesting to me when a theme keeps presenting itself in my life. Whether this theme is presented through conversation, a coincidence or random sign, I always try my best to be aware of it and listen.
Lately, I’ve been having multiple conversations that all reference the theme of letting go and controlling less. Meaning, letting go of trying too hard in order to get a certain result. Letting go of pent up emotion and judgements from the past. Letting go of how you think a situation should pan out. I’m seeing with my own eyes how pushing too hard to get certain results very often backfires and leaves us with the opposite of what we want, or nothing at all.
Letting go is often the very specific step that is necessary to allow a situation, person or thing to evolve and align in your life. Also, it requires nothing from you. No action. No racking your brain for ideas. Just quiet.
Here’s a quote to support this notion:
Williamson goes on in her book to talk about our attachment to results and states that when we have specific results that we want to get, there is a tendency for us to control the outcome. She continues to explain that the more important a result is to us, the more reason to surrender the outcome. Meaning, letting go of how we think a result should appear and show up in our lives. She speaks about a natural outcome, free of control, far exceeding any sort of result that we could have created for ourselves. This seems to be a very opposite way of thinking than what we have been told, which is to “go for it” or “make it happen.”
Williamson defines surrender as “giving up attachment to results.” When we surrender a situation or outcome we let go of our attachment to how we want things to happen on the outside. This allows us to focus more on what’s happening to us internally. Her point is that, within our internal self is where pure truth and love lies. It’s not an external result that makes us happy. It’s an internal feeling/result that leads us to true satisfaction.
This is the story of the individual who looks to have it all. The job, the house, the beautiful partner, the money, the (fill in the blank), yet is not fulfilled.
To put this in simple terms, all in all, sometimes less is more. Less trying to control. Less stuff. Less noise. More truth. More quiet. More time for yourself. More stepping back and allowing.
It’s actually a very calming and relieving notion to me that, at times, our job is actually to step back and let something larger than us figure things out. The reality is that there are situations when our thinking is not going to solve anything. Life is not a math equation. Sometimes things don’t make sense. Thinking too hard or controlling too hard can leave us exhausted, confused and stuck. The bottom line is that there is a time to let go and let be.
Less is more.
Can you think of a circumstance that would serve you to let go of?
* The above image was taken on a road trip to Joshua Tree, California.