What do you think when I tell you that “nothing is worth closing your heart over?” Do you agree, disagree, don’t care? Personally, I could not agree with this statement more.
I’m aware and guilty of believing that building a fortress around the heart sounds like a brilliant idea at times. After all, people can sting you, experiences can be disappointing and failure can happen. Logic says that a fortress can protect a heart from evil things and people trying to hurt it, right? Maybe a fortress is protective, but it also protects the heart from anyone and anything trying to enter. Even the good and meaningful people and experiences. So now what do you do?
Answer: You make a commitment and choice to remain open no matter what happens.
Wherever there is bad, there is also good. This reminds me of the concept of a “silver lining.” Meaning, even within a “bad” situation, a “gem” can often emerge. There is no way to filter your heart just for the good. In order to truly live, you have to keep yourself ALL open, not just selectively open. You have to be open to it ALL.
Here’s the problem with shutting down the vessel that roots to love: If you close off any part of yourself, then you are not living fully. Your saying “NO” to deep connections and authentic love. The choice to close off your heart to others, to experiences and to life can literally leave you lifeless and numbed out.
Opening your heart to life doesn’t have to be a terrifying thing. Living with an open heart will be interesting, rich, and a huge learning experience. That's for sure. You are bound for self growth when you choose to stay open. When you shut your heart down, be prepared to be safe, but remember that playing it safe can easily keep you small and bored.
Here’s the good news: You get to pick which reality you want.
So, what are you going to choose for yourself? Are you going to choose to feel it all and really live or shut down shop and play it safe? It’s up too you.
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* The above image was taken by Amy Lynn Bjornson, San Diego Photographer.