Finding a sense of balance in life can improve everything. Being a balanced person is a way of being that can only help us in all areas of our lives. It can help to ground us and help us to feel less frazzled. It’s easy to feel unsteady when were not paying attention to certain parts of ourselves. When major aspects of who we are are not cared for consistently, we will lose our balance of self.
I know when I’m around individuals that are out of balance, I can really feel their “off” energy. For me, I notice feeling more anxious and I get the overall feeling that I need to create a boundary to protect myself from the storm swirling around me. It’s not my storm, but I can feel the effects of another’s storm when it’s near. My point is that YOU being off balance not only affects you, it can affect all those around you as well.
With all that said, I suppose the question is: How can you consistently feel in balance and in control of your life? Well, what are your priorities? We all have some “staple” things that we need to do consistently in order to feel balanced. Discovering what your staple items are is key for you to maintain your most balanced self. Some general staples can be: working out, eating healthy, spending time with people who fill you up, being in nature, engaging in a hobby, etc. This is up to you to decide what those habits are that keep you settled and calm. Once you identify what these key things are, it’s important to incorporate them into your lifestyle. When they are apart of your lifestyle, they become apart of who you are and how you function. Then, when life gets busy, your grounding behaviors will be on automatic pilot. This will keep you from falling off course.
When life is busy and you are being pulled in multiple directions, what are the things that you need to keep doing and what are the things you are willing to let go of and say “No” too? If you try to do it all, the reality is that you will become off balance because there is a limit to how much you can fit into a certain amount of time. The bottom line is that you will have to make choices in everyday life that honor your core priorities in order to stay on track. You will have to say “No” to some opportunities that come up. This means saying “No” even when you want to say “Yes.”
I can give you a recent, personal example of this situation. Within the last week, I’ve been out of town, here and there, had some friends visiting and staying with me and have just, generally, felt spread too thin. Last night was my first night at home alone and I really needed it. I was “supposed” to go to a get together in order to potentially meet some good business connections/friends. Here’s the thing: I had no reason not to go. It was a mile from my house. I had the time. It was at a cool trendy place I wanted to check out. I can keep going with all the reasons why I “should” have gone, but here’s the reality: I was exhausted. So, I stayed home and watched netflix, ate ice cream and went to sleep early. It was fabulous and I needed that kind of night. Sure, I can also use some more business connections and some new opportunities, who can’t? What I ultimately decided is that my need to take care of my own physical and mental self was bigger and more important than making new connections in that particular moment. That was a tough call, but it’s what I chose and it’s okay and done.
Get clear on what your staple behaviors and actions are in order to stay grounded. Once you do, do them and do them on the regular. Make them apart of your lifestyle, which will then become apart of you and how you function.
Balance is key. Always.
* The above image was taken in Calico Ghost Town, California by San Diego based photographer, Amy Lynn Bjornson.