If I asked you if you’re open to new experiences and people, what would you say? In other words, do you feel open to allowing yourself to get to know others and others to get to know you beyond surface level?
When you have your “walls down” going into an experience or meeting new people there is a very different kind of energy that you are giving off: Your presence feels welcoming and open to the person or experience on the other end of you. Everything will fall into place based on what YOU bring to every experience that you are apart of, both negatively and positively. Basically, you will get what you give off.
What do I mean by being “open?” Someone who is open usually feels comfortable to be around. In simple terms, they are engaging. Interacting with them tends to feel easy. There is “less work” involved in being around them. Generally, interacting with open people is a positive experience because there are minimal walls for you, being on the other end of the interaction, to break down and battle.
What does it feel like to be around someone who is closed? I have two words for you: It’s hard. There tends to be less ease and less comfortability being around someone who is closed off and has their walls up. This makes perfect sense because when anything is closed off to you, it leaves you with nothing to work with. More specifically, when a person is closed off, the conversation tends to be less fluid because you have minimal content to work with. This makes it more difficult to connect and relate to someone else. It makes it “hard.”
Having your walls down doesn’t mean you need to confess your life story and all your inner demons to the person next to you. Having an open presence and feeling about you doesn’t even entail any sort of self disclosure, it’s just a state of being. Having an “open vibe” is usually accompanied by a comfortable and friendly presence. We have all been around someone who just feels open and approachable, that’s what I’m talking about.
The bottom line is that when you function in the world with open energy you get more out of life. Your relationships are deeper, your life flows with more ease, and interesting opportunities and people tend to come into your path more because you are open to them.
When you begin to get aware and “in tune” with you, you can start to notice when your energy is open or closed. When you become more present in your interactions with others, it will become more apparent for you to gage how open or closed you are to new experiences and people. Notice what vibe or energy you give off. Are you generally opened or closed? Again, just notice. As your awareness goes up, see what you find out about yourself. Once you figure that out, then you can decide what you want to do about your findings.
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* The above image was taken by me at the Potato Head Beach Club in Bali, Indonesia.