I’m a huge movie and music person. My ears are always open to hearing someone sing or say a phrase that speaks to me. Relationships are always a main topic in movies, as it’s what makes the world go around. I was watching the movie, The Disappearance of Eleanor Rigby: Them, and there is a scene in the movie between daughter and father regarding marriage that struck me.
Below is the dialogue:
Daughter (Mid 30’s, experiencing loss and separation from her husband):
“How have you and mom made it this far?”
Father (Late 50’s, married, long term to the main character’s mother):
“Everyone starts out thinking (marriage) is forever. Then things get hard at some point or another and other things don’t pan out the way you thought they would. I suppose the trick is not running for the hills even though you think it’s the most rational thing to do. I don’t know.”
I appreciated this honest and real dialogue about commitment and the mystery of it between the characters. It lead me to think about the topic of commitment and how huge and fundamental commitment is toward achieving anything that you want. I can’t nor will I attempt to speak to the complexities of relationships and commitment. I don’t know any answers for that.
What I do know is that the pillar of commitment is a huge aspect of anything that is fulfilling in life. In order to achieve anything worth while, commitment is sure to be present.
When you succeed in anything, you made the decision to commit to “IT.” Meaning that even when there is doubt and hard times, you still decide to prevail and hang in there. The action of not giving up and calling it “quits” is what, ultimately, leads to your success. Hanging in there, choosing to continue, no matter the difficulty or discomfort is commitment.
What does commitment mean to you? What or who are you committed too? Perhaps getting clear on this can keep you from “running for the hills” and achieving what you want.
(*NOTE: There is a time and place to stop and walk away when a relationship or situation is not healthy, although this blog post is not speaking to that whole other “ball of worms.”)
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