There is a time and place to just stop. Maybe that means taking a day off, maybe that means taking a week off. Maybe that means saying “peace out” for several months and traveling to places that give you a very different, real and new perspective. You pick.
I understand that not everyone can just stop and leave at a moments notice. After all, there are responsibilities and commitments: I get it. Although be careful not to convince yourself that you are so over your head with responsibility that you could “never” have some sort of break. The reality is that everyone needs a break from time to time in order to take a step back, breath, reframe, fill up and collect themselves. It’s your personal responsibility to yourself and to the people whom you love and interact with on the regular to take care of that need. When that need is not met and you are burnt out, you, along with everyone else in your life will feel the consequences of your ‘halfway there” presence.
I cannot say this message enough to myself and my clients: Learn to Stop. Please.
Put down the phone, look others in the eye, listen, be present, practice patience, slow down, call it quits, just say No. Stop.
What I’m noticing around me lately are people functioning and living so quickly. It’s really easy to get caught in a vortex of where you want to be. Sometimes, in doing so, everything that lies in the “in between” can be anxiety provoking because it’s not where you want to be NOW in your life. It’s “the grass is always greener” cliche. (You are at a point in your life where relationships, health, career, etc are at some point, but all you can think about and see is where you want them to be. This leaves the present totally unnoticed, ignored and unappreciated.)
Here's the glitch: Even when you get to the end goal of where you want to be, don’t doubt that there will be another end goal waiting for you to get fixated on. So, unless you learn to slow, quiet, take in the present moment, life will be a gigantic rat wheel going around and around with no time for holiday until you choose to make time for it.
What do you have to loose if you slow down, take a “TO” (timeout) and just enjoy and experience where your life is at right now? There is always something to learn and “get” from the present moment. When you’re not allowing the present to just BE, you are missing the valuable lessons that are trying to get your attention in the small unexpected moments.
Slow down, stop, let yourself have a break. Give yourself the gift of less noise and more quality time for yourself.