There is an endless amount of noise and “busyness” today and learning how to shut it off and listen to yourself is huge. With the energy of social media and the constant demand of balancing work, friends and family, life can definitely feel a bit nuts and over whelming.
So, what is one to do?
Here is where I see two main ways of functioning: The first option is to get used to going 100 miles an hour. This usually is coupled with operating non-stop, racing around, constantly doing, being always “busy,” scheduling back to back and never stopping. This not only sounds exhausting, but there are consequences to racing through your life. The second option is to become savy with learning to say “No,” while getting tactful and aware about the events and people in your life that are your “musts.” In a nutshell, I’m talking about becoming focused on your priorities and what’s truly important to you.
Either way life might still seem very busy, but, at least, with option two you are choosing what you want to show up for. It feels different and you show up differently when you are choosing what your committing your own time too.
This leads me to ask you this specific question:
WHO and WHAT in your life is a “MUST?”
It can be beyond beneficial for you to take the time to answer this question. Once you’re clear on the answer, it will be a lot less difficult to say “NO.” The thought is that once you become crystal clear on your priorities and musts, it will be obvious what you need to say “NO” to in order to slow down and balance out your life.
If you struggle with FOMO (fear of missing out), this will also be an ideal time to face this issue because saying “NO” often means rejecting things and opportunities that you would enjoy doing. (Yes, I said would enjoy.) The fact is that there is and always will be an abundance of cool and interesting things to fill your time with. Learning how to balance your energy and life is believing that there will always be events coming toward you that will bring you enjoyment. There is no lack of them. Having peace that you are doing your best to tend to the events and relationships that are your “musts,” while taking care of your self and your other priorities is where your specific balance lies. Everyone has their own unique equation of how to balance their time so life can flow happily on. Your own personal work is to figure out your best life flow so you can get the results that you want.
Do you. Don’t doubt that you will be more present and filled up in your life when you learn to tend to your musts and make your own choices about how you want to spend your time.
* The above image was taken by Ashley Williams, San Diego Photographer.