When you bring yourself somewhere, anywhere, be mindful of what and who you bring. In simple terms; bring your best self. Whether you're going out on a hot date or going to the grocery store, bring your best.
It’s always interesting to me when people change who they are and/or how they act based on who they’re talking with. I don’t know about you, but that leaves me weary of another. Why would you treat others differently based on if they’re the waiter at the restaurant or your future boss? It’s a question with a logical answer to some: “Well, a future boss is someone I will be working for and who chooses to pay and employ me, so I want to show my best.”
Here is my question:
Why would you choose to show anything but your best to another?
I’m sure we can all come up with reasons why some characters in our life get less then the best from us: “I don’t like them,” “they did me wrong”, “they said this about me,” “they said that about me,” and so on. I get it, you will not particularly like everyone in this life, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t offer your best and hold yourself with respect no matter who is in front of you. This might mean, a kind smile and then a quick exit. If that’s your best, then that’s good enough. I’m not asking for a fake exchange, I’m just asking for the best that you can give with any particular person given any particular circumstance or history with them. If your best is to go mute in order to avoid saying something insulting when you see someone your not fond of, if that’s your best, then bravo to you.
The reality is that, first and foremost, you’re respecting yourself when you choose to carry yourself with your best foot forward. A possible sign that your ego is leading the race is when you find yourself validating why it is that another person doesn’t deserve your best. Regardless of what that person did or did not do, how you treat other people is a reflection of you, not them.
I know for me, a big insight into another person is how they treat others. I hold a lot of respect for people who see others with no sort of hierarchy or rank. A person who looks beyond material, career, education and is truly seeing another for who they are is always refreshing to come across. Sometimes it’s a good personal check in to take a step back and evaluate where you are with this. It’s amazing what can happen when you have no guard up and judgement toward another. When you take the time to see another for who they are you might hear stories and make connections that enrich your life or, at the very least, make a typical day less typical.
What and who you bring into an environment is a big deal. Bringing elements to another or to an environment, such as a good energy, a genuine and kind smile or a lovely compliment are little gestures that can effect a whole room. You’re a big deal. Stop believing or thinking that you’re not. Your comments, feedback, mood, vibe, way about you, way you listened (or didn’t), way you treated other people around you, all of it, it leaves an impression. How you show up every day effects everyone around you, so bring your best.
* This image was taken in Joshua Tree by Ashley Williams, San Diego Photographer.