Are you infected with FOMO (fear of missing out)? I suppose I mean, do you let yourself say “NO” to social events or invites from friends? Even if you do say “No,” are you free from feeling guilty and being trapped in your head about if you should've said yes? The inner commentary of “should’s” that lead to guilty feelings can be crazy making. If you resonate with having difficulty around “doing you” and saying no when you're not feeling it, then hopefully this post can help.
We all operate differently. For instance, some of us get our energy from the interactions we have with others (extroverts), while some of us need our solo time to refill our energy (introverts). Regardless of whether you would define yourself as more of an introvert or extrovert, or a mix of both, I believe that finding your correct life balance based on who you are and how you operate best can help you to lead a more fulfilled life.
Here are some tips to keep in mind in order to feel balanced and refreshed:
Pay Attention to How you Feel
Are you tired? How is your energy level? How does your physical body feel? Are your muscles loose or tight? Any aches or pains? Where? How does your mental and emotional space feel? Are you calm or wound up tight?
Some of us are going so fast that we numb out to the signals and physical sensations that our bodies are sending in order to communicate with us. Our bodies will always point to signs of malfunction. Always. Our job is to pay attention to what the messages are telling us. This is so important in order to take good care of ourself. Do your best to have mini check in’s with yourself throughout the day so you can make good choices based on how your feeling.
Learn to Enjoy Your Own Company
I honor the fact that you might label yourself as a “people person,” however be sure not to use that as an excuse to avoid creating a strong relationship with your own self. If your’e one to describe yourself by stating that you “hate being alone,” I highly recommend working toward enjoying your own company. A huge part of being a healthy and balanced person is having a solid and positive relationship with yourself. So, how do you start to cultivate a relationship with yourself if you have convinced yourself that alone time is boring, scary or lonely? In a nutshell, little by little, choice by choice, challenge your belief(s) that you hold around being alone. Think of actions you can take that will push you out of your comfort zone and challenge your theory that being alone is negative. Accept that discomfort is always involved when you are pushing yourself to grow. Change is known to be uncomfortable, but the benefits of trying something new and challenging old beliefs are endless.
Stopping is Healthy
Allowing yourself to stop is an essential action to take in order to be a healthy person. Period. You increase your risk of getting stressed, getting sick or just exhausting yourself when you don’t stop. I’ll say it again, stopping is necessary. Its healthy. Your body needs rest. Please allow yourself to take time out.
In all reality, there will always be something going on that you can technically tell yourself you ‘re missing out on. With social media, you can constantly be plugged in and aware of all the events going on, which are endless. Until you form a different relationship with life and your ability to stop and shut off, FOMO will run your world until you put the concept of “busy” into perspective. So, how do you do that?
First off, accept that you can’t do it all. It’s not humanly possible, nor healthy. When you begin to start accepting this and allow yourself to take the pressure off, this is the first step toward cultivating lower levels of anxiety about missing out. Realize that when you show up, just to show up, you could be doing a disservice to yourself, first and foremost, and to those around you. I know, for me, that when I’m spending time with someone that is running themselves thin, I’m not fully able to enjoy my time with them because they’re half there.
Plan smart. Be aware of not overbooking yourself. When you make plans, leave room for periods of time that are unstructured so you can leave room for you, anything random to pop up and not feel rushed. Learn how to schedule smart. This entails dropping the rush and stress of running around because you feel there is no time. Make time in your schedule to enjoy your day vs. rush through your day.
Learn to rest, relax and be mellow. There is a time and place to be on fire and GO, as there is a time and place to be at peace and rest. Find your happy balance with these concepts so you don’t burn out and run the risk of creating physical aliments rooted from the stress of pushing yourself too much.
You can enjoy the ride a lot more when you’re at peace and attentive to what’s going on around you. Give yourself this gift.