There is a time and place for a plan. I’ve noticed the times in my life where making no plans can leave me feeling stagnant and stuck. I also believe that ditching the plan and going with the unexpected, being flexible and allowing life to play out can offer you a circumstance that is beyond any plan you can dream up.
There seems to be this unique equation that is composed of being clear on what it is you desire for your life, mixed with your idea of actions to get there, sprinkled with allowing where life guides you. The people who I see that are living interesting and rich lives consistently have a similar message in common:
The life that they're living is not what they thought it would be like, it’s better than they thought and they couldn’t have scripted how they got there.
I love that. It’s actually a message that gives me a lot of peace. It allows me to stop believing that I need to be in full control. Of course there’s that piece within all of us, and yes ME, that wants to control, know and have structure and clarity around how it’s all going to go down. I know when this part of me is loud because I begin to clean and organize everything in my world that I can for some sense of control. Sometimes I catch myself in mid frantic clean and laugh because I know what I’m doing. I’m having a mini freak out brought on by my lack of knowing that causes me to feel scared and unsure of what “it”, the future, my life and the next hour is going to look like. It’s in this moment, that I find my grounding by reminding myself that “I’m okay, this is all part of the process and journey, breathe and keep going.”
I can confidently say that my most exciting and touching moments of my life were and tend to be the unexpected ones. The ones that no sort of plan created. These moments were 100% organic in how they evolved and happened. Don’t get me wrong, amazing memories have also come from a plan, but if I had to pick, I choose to jump without knowing what’s going to catch me. I choose this mostly because of the way of life and perspective that it brings. I believe that there is a way to do this that is not naive, yet involves listening, knowing yourself and trusting all that is around you and within you.
Bottom line is that, yes, it’s hard to "not know" and walk down a path that involves many unanswered questions. It’s uncomfortable at times, for sure, no doubt. Although, I also feel that there’s a lot of excitement and adventure when you can embrace the mystery of it all. If we all had the book of our lives in front of us to read from beginning to end, do you think that you would continue to be interested, curious and continue to push yourself to be better? I know my answer to that one. What's yours?
I suppose my offering is for you to let go of the scripted plan as much as you can for who you authentically are and where your coming from. Again, plans are healthy and helpful, to some extent. Learning where that tipping point is where you can loosen a bit because your being held and carried by life is a graceful way of being and living. I invite you to explore what that space feels and looks like for you. When you find that space, try it on and have fun when you do.
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* This image was taken by Shannon Bailey, a San Diego based photographer in Joshua Tree, CA.