There are many ways to get you to where you want to go in life. Believing that there is a limited path to your wants will not only limit you, but discourage you as well. The adventure you experience will be different based on your choices along the way, but you can still get to your overall goal no matter what path you take and where you’re coming from. Life gives us examples of this. It reminds me of traveling. You can get to your final destination a multitude of ways. You can take a direct flight or many connected flights and get to the same final destination. You can leave from anywhere in the world, yet end up at the destination of your choice no matter what the journey of it all looks like. If you have the urge and desire for something to happen in your life and you work toward it, the journey doesn’t have to be concrete and black and white. Meaning it can be flexible, loose and changing.
I know that in my own life, when my inner voice tells me that I blew it, missed my chance for an experience, or turned my back to an opportunity, I can feel super anxious, down and hopeless about my future. A thought that helps me to feel better and releases me from my own, self made sob story is that life is not like math. Often in life, things don’t unfold like a math equation. There is not a wrong and right answer to life. Things don’t always need to make logical sense. Usually, there are many different ways to handle a situation or choice that could lead to a variety of positive outcomes.
I’ve observed that when I’m around people who see things very matter of fact, and I’m struggling not to put a story to my current situation, I can start doubting myself. I doubt because, I suppose, my life is not very matter of fact: I don’t have a 9-5 work schedule, I have enough flexibility where I don’t have to make plans months or weeks ahead of time and I have many different interests that I choose to put my time into. In my head, there is not “this one way” to get toward the life I’m actively creating for myself. I’m clear on what I want, but how I’m going to get there is beyond me. I'm letting go of that and as I do, I feel relief. I’m allowing there to be multiple ways of how this (life) could all work out for me. It remains a mystery. Where this will all lead me, I’m not sure. Sometimes I’m totally cool with this and sometimes this “way” and this “unstructured” path is my enemy. It can lead me into a head spin, especially when I hear feedback that is very linear, meaning that “the way” needs to make orderly sense.
If you can relate to anything I’m saying, my goal for you is to feel understood and not alone. In my weak moments, I wish there was some road map to show me what way to go and what exact steps to take in life. Although, when I lift myself back up and become more grounded and clear, I’m able to remind myself that the “unknown” of it all is where surprises and excitement lives. It's also just a truth. Things, no matter how much you feel you have figured them out, are unknown. Our job is not to know how everything is going to connect and work out, it’s simply to do our best in each moment as life unfolds before us. That's it. This thought makes me feel better and allows me to move forward with less worry and a more positive perspective.
There are multiple paths, roads and adventures to get you to where you want to be. As cliche as it is to say, don’t forget to sit back, stop the worry and just enjoy the ride. Find a way to live in the excitement of all the possibilites.
* I took this picture while on a morning run near downtown San Diego.