I 100% believe that there is a GO time in life where action is needed to get what we want. I also believe that there is a time to stop and let go. I really do believe that life is art. It’s this ebb and flow dance of circumstances. Circumstances that are known and unknown. Life is composed of things that surprise us, scare us, throw us off, make us nuts, make us happy, make us doubt and make us trust……. Needless to say, there is a lot going on. We are presented with all these moments where we have to choose and decide, sometimes very quickly, where the path is going to go.
Suppose that the answer to a situation or predicament is no answer.
I know that this idea can make a lot of us squirm. After all, this concept goes against a lot of kick back that we get from the world. We are so encouraged and pushed to “make it happen.” Go, go, go. Don’t stop until you get what you want. Be determined, be persistent, be a yes person. Again, I do believe that there is a time and place to go after “IT” full speed ahead, but there’s also this really magical thing that can happen when you just…..stop.
Stop trying, stop pushing, stop forcing, stop thinking that you know. Just stop.
Once you stop you then can start allowing, start surrendering, start softening, start opening up to the possibility that you don’t have to try so hard. That you don’t have all the answers, nor should you. Sometimes the answer is to step aside and walk away for a bit. Maybe walk away forever and maybe not walk away forever. I’m not sure, that will depend on you and your unique circumstance.
What I have found with my own life and with people around me is that, often, when you just give something up (which is very different from giving up) you allow the space, time and something other than you to work it’s magic. This requires trust. It requires you to step back and manage your anxiety and worry. It calls for you to acknowledge that there is something bigger than you (life) that knows beyond your logical and practical mind.
If you're currently feeling stuck, perhaps some clarity can be found when you step away from the situation. Maybe you step away for an hour, a day, a week, a year. I’m not sure, that will be your work to figure out the “right” timing for you. What I will offer is the thought that if something is a good fit, a right match, a true passion, a true desire, “IT” will find a way of working out for you if you keep your head in the game. You don’t need to rack your brain with the how, just keep focused on what it is that you want. Let go of how you think it will show up. Let go of what you think you need to do for it to show up. Again, stop.
Taking a moment to step back and assess your feelings around a choice or situation can be the answer that leads to another way. If you’re pushing hard, feeling defeated, feeling stuck, maybe it’s time to take a step back. Just stop. Maybe just for a moment. Remember, when things are quiet, that’s when you can hear more clearly. Give yourself the gift of this space so you have the opportunity to hear your own self or allow something beyond you to direct you.