Welcome to the holiday season friends. The energy is buzzing and there’s a lot of doing this time of year. A lot going on, even if it’s all in good fun, can pull us in different directions and zap our energy if we don’t take care of ourselves.
For some of us there’s also quirky family dynamics, pressure to spend and buy gifts and an overwhelming or underwhelming amount of social engagements. You can make this time of year less stressful if you know how to have boundaries and pay attention to what you need.
So, how can you enjoy this time of year rather than just creep by?
Here’s a phrase that really speaks to me..……
Just because you can; Doesn’t mean that you should.
Did you get that? Please take a moment to soak that in…….
You can DO and BE many things in this life, but it’s not that satisfying to live a life where you spend a lot of your energy doing things you feel you “should” and “ought” to do. I understand that there are certain situations in life where you take one for the team and do something that’s not your preference. Although, for the majority of your choices, I wish for you to really consider what YOU want.
This season offers some major practice if you struggle with feeling like you “should” do things based on your own guilt or what others opinions and response’s to your decisions are. I understand that it’s really difficult when what’s best for you upsets the people you care about. Although, anyone who cares about you in a healthy way will honor your self serving choices, whether they like them or not. Someone doesn’t have to agree with you, but honoring you and your choices is a must for a healthy connection.
How often is it that you feel pressure to commit to an event or activity because you feel you “should?” Your rationale might be that you “can” and have the time so you “should” go. Or you might find a way to validate why it’s “rude,” “inappropriate” or fill in the blank with the correct word that describes your inner, usually guilt influenced voice, that pushes you into situations that simply don’t fill you up.
How you spend your energy is a huge deal. The trick is to learn the art of deciphering what’s the best use of your time given all the other priorities that you’re balancing.
To go a bit further, I wish for you to give yourself more time than you actually think you need so you have the space to enjoy what’s going on around you. Notice that when you’re bouncing from event to event, trying to fit it all in, you’re likely to show up with rushed energy. Slow down, be mindful of over scheduling. Rushing is exhausting.
I’m going to keep this message simple by encouraging you to honor what you want. Remember, you might have the time and means to do many things, although I want you to know that you have permission to forgo anything if it doesn’t serve you or feel right.
Just because you’re capable or have the means and time to do something; doesn’t mean that you should. Avoid getting entangled in outside forces pulling you in various directions by honoring what you want.
*Image by photographer Amy Lynn Bjornson.