When YOU have a big reaction to someone or something, most likely, there is something for you to look at my friend. It’s a very real thing that what brings up a reaction in you about others is something that you can often find within yourself. Meaning that you embody, to an extent, the same trait which you are having a reaction too. This news can definitely put you off. Usually when we are triggered by someone or something, it's because we are irritated, annoyed or just down right not into what that person is doing or what the situation is.
Inner investigation requires you to be real and honest with yourself. If you're into reading about bettering yourself, you often will hear a phrase that goes a little something like this: "That person is acting as a mirror for you in order for you to see in yourself what you cannot see standing alone." It's actually a pretty cool thing that we get people thrown into our lives that help us learn more about ourselves. This will always BE. When someone rubs you the wrong way, it's an opportunity for you to look at yourself and focus on what could be adjusted within yourself. It's so easy to focus on what is "wrong" with someone. It seems to be a more automatic response to do that. Although, perhaps the personal lesson lays in what that other person is bringing up for you. Once you identify what is being triggered, you can then choose to change it. For instance: Why do you feel so annoyed by them? If you can reflect on that question, often, that is where the lesson is.
There is, without a doubt, something to learn from every person and situation. I hate to say it, but especially those situations that really bum you out and make you uncomfortable. When I'm uncomfortable that is actually a signal to me that I'm out of my comfort zone and growing. So as much as I don't love the space i'm in when I feel icky, I know that the bonus is that I'm growing. Somehow knowing that makes me feel better.
Growing literally has growing pains. When you're looking into who you are and how you tick, it can be really hard and humbling to discover certain truths. That's okay and normal. You are being real. We all have our own personal garbage to sort through. Signing up to take an honest look at your own stuff is really brave and rewarding.
The next time you find yourself feeling triggered by someone, perhaps reframe what is going on for you. It can make the experience a bit more harmless and, for what it's worth, interesting. I'm a firm believer that "interesting is better than boring."