Confusion around what decision to make during uncertain times of life can cause us to feel super uncomfortable and anxious. Decisions can be really hard. Especially when a decision can affect others and the general direction of our life. Although, often it's the smaller choices that we make, within the bigger issue, that lead the way.
Gaining knowledge around how to discover your own truth comes with practice. Learning tools to help ground and quiet both outer and inner noise in order to hear your own guidance system is key toward living authentically. Our answers are not outside ourself. They are within. Even when we have fabulous, smart and grounded people in our lives that offer amazing advice, we will not find our answers from them. They can help us toward clarity, so we can hear our own truth, but they don't have our answers. Nobody does.
Our. Answers. Only. Lie. Within.
Today I'm going to speak about one specific approach for you to try that might help you find your own answers.
Here it is. Short and simple........ Ask Questions, Questions Answer. I know, super basic and totally not brain science, but hear me out.
When you're unsure of what “next step” to take in your own life; Ask A Question.
Whether out loud or to yourself. Let down your guard, get vulnerable and ask. Put it out there. The key is to ask your question with intention and clarity. Ask the Universe. Ask your heart. Ask your intuition. Just ask the source to which you feel most connected too. Maybe you feel connected to nothing, no worries, just start asking your question, honestly and openly, and see what begins to unfold within your experience.
So often we go through life, super quickly, without awareness and intention and have the perspective that so many things are going “wrong." I can completely relate to this, as I’ve been there and still continue to visit that space from time to time. It can be hard to cope with a challenging-slash-painful situation and find the strength to see the lesson. Most of us are not taught to look for the lesson. It’s way more common to focus on the problem, which creates more problem. With that said, a very helpful perspective to help root you when making difficult decisions is to ask what the circumstance is there to teach you. When you can spot the learning opportunity, often the frustration and pain tends to dissipate and clarity can come.
Here’s an example:
“Hey there universe, (here is my situation) and I want to know what this circumstance or event is here to teach me. Please show me some answers.”
Ask for your heart to have some peace. Ask for some relief. Ask for something uplifting to happen. Just start asking for what you need. Start thinking about what you need and what you want, then ask for it.
It’s very human and easy to get caught in a negative story when a difficult decision, event or challenge presents itself. We can easily enter into the abyss of “worst case scenario” thinking. We do this because we're human and it's what we do sometimes. We have to train our minds to focus on something other than the problem. This is the work.
With that said, I’m gonna leave you with a quote from a Tom Petty song that speaks to me.
Now, go out there and listen to your heart. Let it help guide you.
* The above image was taken in Hermosa Beach, CA.