Do you question if there "is more" for you in life than what you’re currently experiencing? If you answered a “Hell Yes” to this question, then I highly encourage you to investigate if you're playing small in your life? When you play small in your life, you're not bringing your true gifts and essence to this world.
What a shame!
Let’s address this issue.
So, what, exactly, does “playing small” mean?
Playing small usually points toward keeping your opinions internal, your voice quiet, your dreams stuffed, your thoughts unexpressed, your questions unanswered, your wants disregarded and your life feeling flatlined. When you're playing small in your life, it’s common to allow out side circumstances and people to dictate your choices, whether they’re congruent with who you are or not. Generally speaking, when you're playing small in your life, you’re not living to your fullest potential.
There are many reasons why we tend to play small in our lives............
Here are some of them, along with my contrasting commentary to get you back in the game:
You Battle with a Large Amount of Self Doubt
Stop doubting yourself. Your truth is always right for you, whether others agree with it or not. The more you learn to tune inward and notice what’s going on internally when faced with decisions or choices, the more you will cultivate this skill. Just to be clear; WE ALL HAVE SELF DOUBT. No matter how confident you feel others are, the reality is that experiencing doubt is apart of the human experience. The difference is that the confident ones among us have learned to hone into their truth and trust themselves more. This allows them to feel the doubt, push it aside and continue onward. You too can grow this internal "truth muscle" within and become more confident and sure.
You’re in Constant Comparison of Others
Please, please, please stop looking toward others to measure your worth. Their journey, accomplishments, looks, circumstances, financial status, etc. has nothing to do with your worth and value as a human being. If you feel that comparing yourself to others is a big trigger for you, I highly recommend putting a boundary on your social media usage. Regularly cruising through social media can promote total and utter comparing. So, if you struggle with comparing; you’re putting yourself in a tank with sharks. Perhaps it's time to take a social media break in order to experiment with how you feel when you take a mini vacay from your electronic devices.
Do you. Be you. Tap into your absolute uniqueness and when you do, what others are doing is not as important.
You Have a Messed Up Belief that You Are Not Good Enough
I’m here to tell you that you are good enough AS IS. Again, the “right” job, living situation, amount of money, number of likes on social media, quantity of friends, accomplishments of the past or your current relationship status will not make you more worthy. You are worthy just as is. Until you begin to marinate on that, digest it and believe it, you will be struggling to find your worth. It doesn’t need to take so long sweet friend, to start believing that you already possess everything that you will ever need. Believe it now.
You’re Allowing Fear to Consume You
Fear is a beast.
Fear is what has or is holding all of us back at one point or another. What we’re scared of can be legit, however, the story that fear speaks to us is usually never "the truth." Taking a step back in order to question and break fear down can help reduce the worry and anxiety that fear triggers. Perhaps allowing a friend to help you sort out "the facts" from "the story" of your fear can help you see a more realistic perspective of what's really happening.
If, after reading this, you’re able to identify that you're playing small in your life, this is a great step because you now have the gift of awareness. It’s not until you're aware of circumstances and behaviors in your life that you can begin to change them. Playing small is a habit that can be broken. It’s not who you are.
Cheers to you. Keep trucking ahead and do your best to listen to yourself. Remember, life wants you to step up and give your gift. It will support you when you begin the journey toward your truth.
* The above image was taken by me in Joshua Tree, California.