Who doesn’t want to be confident? 

Walking through this world, confident, believing that we’re deserving and capable of great things can greatly improve our lives. Confidence is attractive. It allows us to feel capable and helps us to trust in our abilities with more ease. It lessens self doubt and gives us the courage to make choices that push us outside our comfort zone. The confidence that we exude attracts what opportunities and people come our way.  Confidence gives us the courage to stay true to our boundaries, allowing us to stay in alignment with our true desires. Our confidence level is correlated with how others treat us.

Confidence is not always bold and obvious. It could be, yet it’s often quiet and graceful. This is why confidence is so alluring. There’s an artful balance point where grace and confidence meet. The work we all have before us is to shed the blocks that lead us toward insecurity and build upon our natural essence.

You can observe confidence by noting the quiet listener in a room. A person who doesn’t need the attention on them because their energy and presence is known by their ability to listen and truly hear another. When you’re confident, you're not clawing for attention and validation from outside yourself. Confidence brings a powerful energy.

It’s light, refreshing and attractive. It’s not loud; it’s powerful in a subtle way.

So, how can you gain confidence?

Confidence is an organic result of fully accepting who you are, where you are and what you’re about.

How do you hone your unique confidence?

You practice and work toward accepting yourself…..as you are…..now. 

Not when you achieve this or that. Not when you have attained this or that, whether it be a relationship, material object, job title, what have you. Simply, now. When you get to a point within yourself where you can enjoy and accept where and who you are in the present, that’s where self acceptance lives. 

Accepting yourself for who you are, imperfections and all, is worth working on. When you weed through the noise of your inner world and ditch the garbage that is holding you back from fully seeing and accepting yourself, LIFE IS BETTER. You will feel lighter, more grounded and more joyful.

Remember, it’s not the destination; it’s the journey. Enjoy it more, now, by allowing yourself to be where you're at without judgement or the pressure that you “should” be elsewhere. 

Cheers.

* Image by San Diego based photographer, Amy Lynn Bjornson.