What’s your relationship with the concept of time?
How you think about time is either causing you unneeded suffering or benefiting you, whether you're aware of it or not. When I speak about the concept of time, I’m referring to the unspoken, yet sometimes assumed sequence of life events that tends to drive us humans.
Although, the reality is that we each have our own unique path, which may or may not follow a logical and obvious way. We are not meant to arrive at specific life markers at the same time. It's natural for everyone to arrive in their own time. This is to be respected and if it's not, suffering will follow.
The problem is rarely in what’s happening; The problem tends to fall in how we perceive what’s happening. This will always be. If there’s any area of your life where you feel “behind” and a sense that “time is running out,” you will feel stressed, heightened anxiety and potentially panicked..
Today I’m here to give you a clear message: Trust Where You’re At.
It’s very common to have developed timelines and stories around what our life should and ought to look like. The reality is, life rarely goes as planned. We don’t have full control around all the intricate pieces that tend to organically come together in order for the bigger picture of our lives to pan out. Our suffering comes with the belief that “something has gone wrong” when things are not happening as we expected and scripted them too.
Hear me out: Just because you currently don’t have what you desire doesn’t mean that anything has gone wrong or that it’s not coming. Believing that a ship has sailed and you’ve “missed opportunities” to have what you want are ways of thinking that lead to pain and defeat.
I’ll never forget a conversation that I had with a friend who said, “You didn’t miss THE boat Kim; You missed A boat.”
Figuratively speaking, boats are cruising by all the time in our lives appearing as relationships, opportunities and possibilities. This will never end, as it’s what life is all about. There will never be a lack of opportunities and people coming in and out of our lives. It’s the belief that there is a lack of opportunities that gets us worried about not getting and achieving what we desire in this life. Even when it feels like everything is over because of the pain of a heart break or the instability of a lost job; I'm here to remind you that it’s not over. There will be the next love or job in due time. Such is life.
Trust the timing of your life. That doesn’t mean that you have to be over the moon about where your currently at, although you do have to accept it. With acceptance we are able to move onto the next stage and moment in our lives with clear and open energy.
Practice believing that you have an abundance of time. Trust that the experiences that you hold in your heart will come and are, in fact, on there way. This will help release the anxiety and stress that's blocking the desired event from coming into your experience.
Time is not running out. Use time to be punctual and responsible, rather than shame yourself around where you think you should be.
Remember: All timing is perfect.
A meditation to help with this concept.
* The above image was taken in Downtown Los Angeles at the Beyond the Streets Art Exhibit.