Highlighted Topic: Battling Limited Beliefs
Susanna Samaniego is an interior designer and owner (along with her sister, Elaina) of 4 Corners, an interior design company based in both San Diego and Bali. I was drawn toward speaking more in depth with Susanna because she and her sister have created their very lovely and impressive design business from a mere thought that was once just a vision in their minds. I find that, in itself, fascinating and inspiring. Although, to go further, I always appreciate hearing the elements of what one has had to overcome in order to be “living their dream.” I’m a believer that it’s not necessarily easy to live your truth, nor should it be. It’s cliche to say, but good things rarely come too easily because it’s within the challenge and hard work that you learn and grow. I thought that this conversation with Susanna really highlights this.
Here’s Susanna's story......
Although Susanna struggled with limiting beliefs about herself from grade school through college her ability to take positive action in order to counter her negative self beliefs led her to where she is today: The owner of a continually growing design business, which allows her to call her own shots and live true to her vision. During our conversation we covered topics that touch upon how to counter and challenge limiting beliefs and labels. In a nutshell the tactic that helped Susanna was to “hone in on“ what she was good at. She felt that she had a lack of intelligence, so she ramped up the area where she thrived, which was within being creative and social. This remains to be the part of her character today that she believes to play a major role in her success, both personally and professionally.
So often it’s easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others, which can lead us to believe that we are not enough. Unfortunately, when we get caught in that brain space, we forget about what we DO have going for us and neglect to focus on what’s going right for us. Instinctually, Susanna knew to hone in on the skills that allowed her to thrive and stand out. (We all have these. They just might be different then the norm.) This is the force that helped her to get beyond her learning disorder label and negative self beliefs that made her feel small.
I was taken back to hear how Susanna naturally developed her own perspectives and ways of thinking that led her to continue to create a life that she truly wanted, despite her internal and external road blocks. There was a point in our conversation where she mentioned that her low self esteem made her believe that: “I’m going to have to be my own boss because I don’t want anyone to know I’m stupid.”
Ironically, as much as I hurt for that little girl that had that thought and truly believed that she wasn’t smart, I’m beyond impressed with her fighting spirit that didn’t give up and set out to do things “her way” with being her own “boss.” A way that she knew she could succeed and she has. When I asked Susanna how she built up her confidence within herself over the years, she replied with, “By doing things my way.” Through our conversations it appeared that her inner voice always did murmur that, which she did listen to in order to be where she is at today.
Another comment that stood out to me during one of our conversations that points to the healthy persistence within her was described when she was talking about being laid off after her first job after college. She said that when she got laid off, she thought: “If nobody is hiring than what a perfect opportunity to hire myself.” Again, it’s that fighting, persistent fire within her that brought her to where she is now. I suppose the message that I hear in that is to I want to always keep going. Things are going to get challenging, especially when your going for something you truly want. It’s the individuals that keep pressing on that will continue to discover the bread crumbs toward their true path.
All in all, it seemed that things came full circle for Susanna. It appears that because she had to battle self doubt, that pointed her toward her current journey of self love. I suppose if you don’t have one you wouldn’t have the want to seek the other.
When I asked Susanna what she thinks about her intelligence and “way” of being and learning now, despite her old belief of "being stupid," her answer was touching: “I think I am beyond intelligent. I think I have a beautiful mind.”
Hell yes lovely lady. Yes you are and yes you do.