Is It Just Me—or Has Wellness Become More Complicated?
You don't always need another answer or fix—maybe you just need enough quiet to hear the answer you already have.
Sometimes we're so busy managing our health and wellness that we're taking the life out of living.
We're measuring. We're counting. We're tracking. We're monitoring.
What happened to enjoyment? To being? Trusting that if you do your due diligence and make good choices surrounding your health, a healthy body can follow?
One of the things I find myself saying over and over in my work is:
slow. down.
I feel like I'm constantly trying to untangle the complication of even good things. Even too many healthy things can be overwhelming and create a bit of madness.
I find myself talking about shedding more than adding. Offering more discernment around all the things to try rather than encouraging more.
Because I see a pattern of well-intentioned people trying to solve their lives by adding more.
More therapy.
More books.
More appointments.
More information.
More strategies.
More wellness.
And—just maybe—sometimes what we actually need is to stop for a minute and ask:
Do I really need another thing—or do I need to pay attention to what I already know?
I think wellness has become incredibly complicated—because there is so much.
So many different things we're being told are the answer or can fix something.
I even see it in the clinical work I do. Clients coming to me asking if “this particular therapy” or that particular medicine or way will fix it.
The thing is, all these new offerings can be useful tools. But a tool is only a tool. You still have to actually use it—consistently, with some aim, and long enough to know whether it's helping.
I'm not against these things. Some of them can be—and are—genuinely helpful.
What I'm questioning is the idea that more automatically means better.
Sometimes we're so busy looking for the next thing that we never give what we're already doing enough time to actually work.
Consistency is boring. And it is incredibly significant.
When I look at people who become truly exceptional at something—whether it's a sport, a craft, a career, or something they've devoted their lives to—I keep seeing the same thing underneath it:
They keep showing up.
There’s always a new way.
A new method.
A new tool.
But eventually, you have to actually do the thing.
Regularly.
For long enough to see what it does.
To notice how you feel doing it.
To witness the results that come from it over time.
That takes patience, dedication and it takes aim.
What's new can be fascinating and something to try—but what we consistently choose is what is dictating the results in our life.
This is where wellness can get particularly noisy. We're constantly being encouraged to optimize—to find the best workout, the best supplement, the best treatment, the best routine.
Maybe the more meaningful question isn't:
What's the best thing I could be doing?
It's:
What am I actually willing to keep doing?
Because something can be incredible and still not make much of a difference in your life if you don't do it consistently.
You can have an incredible therapy session.
Read a life-changing book.
Go on a retreat.
Have a huge realization.
But what happens after?
Do you actually do anything differently?
Because insight matters—but consistency is what turns insight into change.
Maybe we need more discernment around what we’re choosing-
Choosing what gets your time.
What gets your energy.
What gets your money.
What gets your attention.
What gets repeated.
What gets let go.
That's true of wellness, but it's also true of almost everything.
Sometimes that might mean therapy.
Sometimes acupuncture.
Sometimes a retreat.
Sometimes a great supplement or a product you genuinely love.
And sometimes it might mean going for a walk, getting some sleep, being outside, moving your body, saying no, or finally making a decision you've been avoiding.
There isn't one answer or AN answer. Maybe that’s the point.
For me, part of taking care of myself has become figuring out what deserves my attention—and giving those select number of things enough time to see what they can actually do.
If you’re curious—
…..here’s a few things I actually keep using+ genuinely enjoy for my own wellness.
For my body
Wellious Protein Powder
Such good flavor + simple ingredients.
For my hair
MELU Shampoo + Conditioner
For my skin
Vacation Sunscreen
*A note about the products mentioned here: Some of the products mentioned here were provided to me by the brands, and I may receive compensation if you choose to purchase through my links. I only share products I genuinely use, enjoy, or would recommend.
Above image by visual artist, Amy Lynn.
